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Friday, January 1st, 2010

Subject:Here I go again!
Posted by:angelscry09.
Time:9:36 pm.
So what if you are in this position:

You met your partner 10 years ago. You smoked. You quit 3 years ago. They said they supported you and would quit with you but thought you would give up and not be able to do it. Now you are smoke-free and your partner is not and it physically makes you sick to smell it and you are repulsed when you look at him/her and know they are lying and smoking behind your back.

Poll #1506079 Smoking

Is smoking a marital deal breaker if it physically prevents you from connecting with your partner?

Yes
17(65.4%)
No
9(34.6%)


Cross-posted to other advice communities!
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Sunday, December 27th, 2009

Subject:Question about "sex journals"
Posted by:angelscry09.
Time:2:27 pm.

So I have a question.

Is it wrong to be married to someone who you absolutely love and have sexual stories and create a journal just as an outlet and not tell your partner because frankly......it's not thier thing nor is it something you want in real life? Basically just wanting to be able to release random sexual stories because you enjoy writing and having that outlet.

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Thursday, November 12th, 2009

Posted by:hermione1fan.
Time:7:09 pm.
So, lately I have begun enjoying sex a lot more with my boyfriend, largely in part to receiving my first internal orgasm.
But he doesn't necessarily feel the same way about sex. He says it's enjoyable but not super fantastic because he has no one else to compare to.
I'm usually on top because him on top doesn't always work too well.
What can I do to make him think that sex with me is better than he thinks, before he decides he wants to try it with someone new?
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Wednesday, November 4th, 2009

Posted by:sekali.
Time:11:07 pm.
Anyone still using this thing?

I need advice on how to get out of the emotional rut I'm in. I feel down everyday mostly because I'm bored or stressed about work and school. What do you guys do for fun? What do you do to raise your spirits on a bad day? I don't have many hobbies I enjoy, and I don't really know what to do with my time.
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Thursday, September 3rd, 2009

Posted by:tallow19.
Time:2:50 am.
what do you do if you know one of your friends is cheating on their significant other..
do you tell the significant other?
or just leave it?
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Monday, June 29th, 2009

Subject:A brief proposal about organization of therapeutic and recreational activities on Pacific Islands.
Posted by:rotte_volf.
Time:10:29 am.
SunlandThe core of the idea is an external use of activated talasso-mixtures and fito-mixtures (emulsions, balms) prepared on essential oils. This usage combined with massage and water therapy. The aim of the method is removing toxins, restore and rejuvenate the human body, strengthen the immune system.

Balms and emulsions used in the form of compresses and smearing the body that allows gradually impregnate the whole body through the skin down to the bone. During 8-10 sessions the body is impregnated until the bones, all the salt deposits is resolving, the joints and many internal organs begin to function normally. Human organism is cleared of toxins. The body rejuvenates and the immune system increases its capacity. Many diseases simply disappear. For example, during several courses of treatment (each course contains 8-10 sessions) the lost functions of the musculoskeletal system can be restored.
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Sunday, June 28th, 2009

Subject:Making Progress --- Thanks be to God!
Posted by:duelingenigma.
Time:10:02 pm.
Mood:better.
Well, I realized this evening that if I did not waste time, I could make it home to start my evening meditation between 830 and 9pm.  I did a regular session with about ten minutes of "rising, falling" breathing exercises suggested by Cynthia from the Dhamma Friend Program (She suggested 15 minutes, but ten minutes for this evening will be a good start.  I also sent an email message back to Cynthia requesting to participate in the 12 week Dhamma Friend Program thru July, August, and September. 

On other notes, I did stop by the place where I have my trailers and flea market stuff and accomplished quite a bit of reorganization which I have been slowly struggling with.  Everything usually in small steps, but hopefully always progress in the long run.

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Thanks for your interest; have fun and enjoy life,

Cascade
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Subject:Must ... Meditate ... argh!
Posted by:duelingenigma.
Time:8:03 am.
Mood:perplexed.

Well, here I am; still stuck in my routine -- get to bed late (maybe an hour or two past my intended time of 9pm), get up late (once again, maybe an hour or two past my intended time of 5am).  It is pathetic, but I think I need like a meditation drill sargent to kick me in the ass and get me started.  On the other side, I found enough motivation and strength to write this journal entry -- Happy about that!

I know there are many reasons to meditate -- enlightenment, to connect with God, our Creator, to be more restful -- but at this point, I feel it is almost essential to my survival; without it, I will continue to lead a mediocre life and eventually, I will find myself and my mind wallowing in obsessive unproductive thinking which will lead to some kind of crash.  I do not want to sound alarmist, but after trying many methods of living over my 50 years, I can say by experience what works and what does not.  The big question would be, "If I know what I need, and I am capable of making it happen, then -- Why ... Don't ... I ... Provide ... What ... I ... Need???

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Well, gotta go; have fun, be Hopi,

Cascade
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Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

Subject:Any ideas ??
Posted by:call_me_lovey.
Time:5:20 pm.
Hiya,

Ever since I was young, I’ve always been into things. My parents are really clever & got me into half the things I like now.
I don’t just enjoy things, I really get into them. I devote a silly amount of time to them. Then I give all the stuff I’ve collected away.
I was even going to give away a box set of a favourite TV series, which I saved up for & think is the best thing I’ve seen for years, & its memorabilia, which my parents bought. I love this series so much I won’t even watch the extras on the DVDs for fear of spoiling my enjoyment of it. The only reason I didn’t get rid of it is because I was talked out of it. I’m so relieved I didn’t.
I’ve bought albums twice – I’ve bought them once, given them away, then bought new copies!

I think that if I could only get this stuff out of my house, everything that is wrong in my life would be right. I made a list & the only thing I can think of/that came up that is “wrong” is that I’m disabled. People have described my house & the way I live as “stunning”. I don’t even want to do half the things I feel I should be doing. I love my life the way it is. So why do I do this ??
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Tuesday, January 27th, 2009

Posted by:anony_friend.
Time:3:46 pm.
anonymousfriend2009@gmail.

I'm here for you, no judgment.
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Subject:Guy help
Posted by:shanaynay418.
Time:5:39 pm.

A little advice please...

I went to a party, met a friend of a friend, and halfway through the night he asked me for my phone number. I've never been asked for it before so it was really awkward to me and I didn't know how to react, so I just gave it to him. And to be honest I was a bit intoxicated at the time as well.

However, he actually turned me off a bit by his OBSESSIVE TOUCHING. It didn't bother me so much at first but looking back on it when I'm in my right mind, I'm not comfortable with it. It started with rubbing my back while were standing there in a group of people talking. Then he would randomly poke me and touch my hand. Then we were playing a game and he put his arms around my waist. Later in the night after we got back to my friend's house he sat next me and he kept bumping my foot with his and stroking my hand. Now granted, I was intoxicated but I was in decent enough senses that I wasn't playing into any of his touching. Everytime he touched me I would change position or pretend I was distracted by something and just walk away, and I wouldn't make eye contact. But this guy would not take the hint. And it got worse after I gave him my number but to the best of my knowledge I wasn't indulging any of his touchy feely advances.

So here's where I need some advice. My mother among some others are telling me that I don't have any other prospects right now and he was a nice guy so I might as well just try it out and go on a date with him and see what happens. However, my first impression of him isn't the best, seeing as my post drunk reaction is the touching was inappropriate. The problem with that is he's my friend's friend and guaranteed I would see the guy the next time my friend has a party at his house and that would be so incredibly awkward (apparently we have been at the same parties before but had never met).

I'm just not used to these kind of situations and if had it been some random guy I would have no problem just forgetting the whole thing ever happened. It's just a little hard since it's my friend's friend and I would possibly see the guy again. He called twice last night and left a voicemail. What would any of you do in this situation?

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Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Subject:Advice for a Friend
Posted by:supaiku.
Time:9:23 pm.
Lately I've noticed one of my oldest friends has become more and more recluse. I recently approached him about it and asked him what was going on. He ended up telling me and wanted me to ask other people for advice for his situation for him. Thus I'm coming to you guys and gals for some advice for him.

He told me that he is finding himself to be really disgusted with people. While he was never social in the true sense of an outgoing, hand-shaking, "I want to know your story" type social guy, he was never quite this bad. He said he's finding it harder and hard to talk to people, preferring instead to be left to his own mind. He rarely leaves his apartment now. How he makes money enough to afford his apartment remains a mystery to me, but I guess that's not really that important. The point being, he says he's finding it near impossible to be social. He says he's having trouble fitting in with society, that he's afraid that they will judge him too much for how he is. He's afraid of saying the wrong thing to the point of where he won't even speak in public unless it's a direct question. Even then, if he can get away with a nod or a head shake, that's what he'll do. He said his mind is too slow for social interaction, that he can't think of responses fast enough and when he does it goes back to being too afraid to say them.

He wants help.

He wants to know how to be more social and open. How to fit in with society. I told him he needs to disregard what people think about him and if he's happy with himself then who cares what others think. He just said that he can't do that. He's afraid of making the wrong choices in life to the point of where he'd rather not have to make any at all.

I don't think he's left his apartment in over a week. I'm really concerned for him. And quite frankly, I'm shocked he's even talking to me at all about this. I guess that's the one good thing about knowing someone for eight years.

Still, can anyone out there give me some advice on what to tell him? Something that might make him snap out of this? He's a nice guy, always put others before himself. It pains me to see him like this. Worse, still, that he can't even reach out for help on his own and instead is relying on me to ask for some advice.

Help!
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Friday, October 10th, 2008

Subject:Diagram of achieving goals
Posted by:conan_hacker.
Time:12:05 am.
Hi! I charted draft of Diagram of achieving goals. It should be simple, self descriptive, helpful and inspiring:

http://www.makelinux.net/live/achieving_goals

What is your opinion? How can I improve it?
Thanks.
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Thursday, October 9th, 2008

Posted by:tallow19.
Time:5:16 pm.
so i have a new student and he's new to the country and does not know any enlgish. he's in the middle years 6-8.

let me clarify, he can say the alphabet and name a few objects and that's about it.

where do i start with him?

sounds? phoneme work? alphabet books? or making alphabet books?

do i read books aloud to him? I know dual language books would be helpful, but how can he respond to it if he doesn't know the words to use?
seems like a catch 22 to me.
use read aloud books on a tape casseettte?

but how do i get him started on writing? he wants to write, but when given the chance writes very little.
doesn't like copying things either.
how to learn how to read and write and communicate in awhole new language.

I've given his teacher some scribed work for him to work on like a journal.. with a very simple format and then some books for him to make.. but that's about it.

i know that i can't teach language seperately and that it has to be in context.

thankfully, i have a dual language dictionary.. it will come in usueful.. somewhat anywyas.
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Sunday, September 14th, 2008

Subject:For those who seek help
Posted by:abusoemocional.
Time:6:25 pm.

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Monday, August 25th, 2008

Subject:new community
Posted by:advicenator.
Time:3:28 am.
If you are an advice column, please consider joining a community specifically for columnists. We are fairly new and small right now, looking to expand. We are friendly and, obviously, helpful. Our community is not for GIVING or GETTING advice but it is for us columnists who just want to relax and discuss our lives, our work, and how we go about doing our advising.

http://community.livejournal.com/advicecolumns/profile

We would love to see you join. :) And we would especially love if you decided to send us a link to your column, because we have a special section designed to allow other LJ users to find you for advice! :)
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Sunday, July 13th, 2008

Subject:Crush on a cousin?
Posted by:algebrahelpplz.
Time:1:22 am.
So I have this cousin who became pretty easy in the eyes recently. We usually don't see each other a lot but since other cousins came over our houses for an upcoming wedding, we are in each other's presence as of late. He starts becoming touchy-feely and compliments me a lot ~because I have a nice ass~. At first I thought nothing of it but as each day passes by that we see each other, his remarks become more and more risque. I.E.:

When we pass each other, he has to turn around and ogle at me or he would make me turn around so he can get ~a better view~ and obviously I would give him a face and he would go "Geez, I'm just looking at you!" and a wink. Every. Time.

Then there was this time I was laying on a lounge talking to a friend on my cell and he practically lied on me to wrestle my phone away to see if it was a guy/a boyfriend.

Then at the day of the wedding, he came over to my table (might I add, his girlfriend was also present on that table) and just blurted "damn, if I was 8 years younger and we weren't related..." and made me get up so he could get ~a better view~ of my dress and then hugged me tightly for a good 20 seconds and smacked my ass.

After all of this, I lost appetite. I literally haven't consumed anything in two days except water. The sight of food also makes me gag. Then all of the songs I listen to remind me of my cousin. I start having these obsessive thoughts about him. Like, hoping he would continue to do the stuff he does or pays me more attention or we would still have an intimate relationship even after my other cousins leave. Then at the same time I feel gross for having these thoughts about a BLOOD RELATIVE.

Ugh, what's wrong with me? What should I do?

x-posted
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Friday, July 11th, 2008

Subject:Women tired of the bullshit men bring plz come together and give each other advice on my page?
Posted by:softlipseri.
Time:6:52 pm.
Hey for all the women unhappy with their boyfriends be/c hes an asshole and he doesn't have the clue to be a man and be that emotional support! Plz msg me or just plz plz go to my page and comment on the most recent comment and give advice to each other? So we might be able to find a way to be stronger together?
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Thursday, July 10th, 2008

Subject:Do you own your own column? Promoting.
Posted by:advicenator.
Time:4:09 pm.
Mood: happy.
Yes, I am trying to promote a new advice community, sorry if it gets on anyone's nerves...under the LJ-Cut below!:



Advice Columns?!Collapse )
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Wednesday, July 2nd, 2008

Subject:role reversal
Posted by:justakid.
Time:1:22 am.
Mood: gloomy.
I'm 25. My boyfriend is two years older than I, and we've been dating for six years. He was (and is) my first serious boyfriend. As a beau, he's done everything right: He's gentle, caring, attentive, supportive. He tells me he loves me every day. We almost never fight. We have the same religious views. My parents like him. Etc, etc.

Recently he's begun dropping hints about marriage. It makes perfect sense and almost everyone we know believes it to be long overdue for us. But after thinking it through for a couple days I am absolutely astounded to realize that I don't want to get married. I can't think of a single good reason, except that I just don't. Sure, I'd love to move in with him, and be his partner forever...I just don't want to get married. I don't want a ring. I don't want a ceremony. I don't want a license. I just want to continue the way we are right now.

And I feel like an utter freak. My feelings appear to be the exact opposite of any other young woman my age. Digging through various forums it seems that most young men my age can sympathize, and here and there I read claims that in this day and age fewer people are actually getting married, but I'm not hearing first-hand accounts about that from anyone.

At this point, the boyfriend has more or less asked for an engagement by Christmas and I'm preparing to tell him that I don't feel ready, which sounds absolutely ludicrous given our lengthy history. I don't know what else to say. I don't know why I feel this way.

Sigh.
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